Good Conversation......

 Ending a relationship that is not good for you sounds easy but can be difficult. There is one real thing that you have to do to finally walk away. Make up your mind PERIOD! Seriously sit down and in your mind ask your self these questions: Can I be my best self with this person? Is this relationship beneficial to them more than me? Are you happy to see yourself with this person in the future with out a doubt? When you come to terms with those things and just basically make a conscious decision to do what you need to do for you, everything else falls into place. A lot of people sabotage themselves by staying years in a bad relationship because they don't want to look like "the bad guy" or they don't want to be "uncomfortable". Maybe other aspects of the relationship work for them but they generally are miserable. Perhaps the spouse's family is really nice but the days at home are dreadful.  When you drag this process on it results in a...

By the time most of us are considered "Grown Up" we are molded into the person that we will be as an "adult". The things that we have learned can then be passed on to our children and our children's children. One of those things that I have learned about is the power of trust!  That its the one word can break the toughest of bonds and shatter the best of relationships. Blood cannot change the rules either, once you lose the trust of a loved one you can either choose to let go or work tremendously hard to get it back. One thing that confuses me though is the fact that  guilt  can mimic a lack of trust. A persons guilt can rot their heart; poisoning their minds into believing that whatever they have done to others will eventually happen to them. So a long history of paranoia, worrying, skepticism and never ending doubt is their life sentence. Unfortunately, this hurts the one who really loves them and eventua...

Hello People!!!! I was online reading random blogs and a thought came to my head. I was thinking about relationships. I remembered stories of mine about when I was having trouble in a relationship and before I knew it I was dating another person. Is this another form of promiscuity or does the fact that a woman will claim to be in a relationship each time they move on change the concept?   After growing up and finding myself, I see it as most of us young women looking for the wrong thing in the wrong men. Is there an intention to be a "whore" or be promiscuous, for some women, absolutely !! But for most, they are just lost young women looking for things in the wrong places. I know I used to be her !!! Nobody is an open book! All we see is the cover! So before you judge a young woman on her background or history, make sure she didn't/doesn't need help, a conversation may change her life. If you know what I mean. ~ inspire ~ Love lots..... Until Next time......

After being in a handful of relationships and experiencing different things each time, I have come to ask myself "............ will I ever be completely satisfied or will I always have to deal with something ?" When I say "something" I don't mean small things; I'm talking attitude, jealousy, laziness, selfishness, etc . When is it OK to compromise? As a women and yes I am talking to you ladies, WE ALREADY KNOW WHAT WE CAN AND CAN NOT TOLERATE. Still through love we are inclined to give it a chance. So this brings me back to the question. Just because we may have to deal with a certain "bad" personality trait, does it make your relationship less then perfect? I would love to hear from you ladies and guys too! So here's what I think.... I don't think that a "defective" personality( who's to say its not you) trait would cause much of a problem, especially if the two of you really love each other. I do believe that as lon...