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Letting Go

 Ending a relationship that is not good for you sounds easy but can be difficult. There is one real thing that you have to do to finally walk away.
  • Make up your mind PERIOD!
    • Seriously sit down and in your mind ask your self these questions:
      • Can I be my best self with this person?
      • Is this relationship beneficial to them more than me?
      • Are you happy to see yourself with this person in the future with out a doubt?
When you come to terms with those things and just basically make a conscious decision to do what you need to do for you, everything else falls into place. A lot of people sabotage themselves by staying years in a bad relationship because they don't want to look like "the bad guy" or they don't want to be "uncomfortable". Maybe other aspects of the relationship work for them but they generally are miserable. Perhaps the spouse's family is really nice but the days at home are dreadful. 

When you drag this process on it results in a few different things. The break up tends to be tough and people end of getting hurt in that process. People will be hurt regardless but the more time you invest in something that you don't  believe in, the more pain there will be.

YOU deserve to be happy! YOU deserve to love and receive the same! YOU are worth a union that is fruitful and engaging.

Walk away for your heart and the person that you are leaving. Sometimes people don't understand when things aren't right for them and confuse it as hardship, or trial of the relationship. The issue with  this is that if it is continuous conflict it won't end until someone makes a conscious decision to change for the better or walk away.

I stayed in a relationship that was toxic for 8 whole years and I cannot get that time back. I can only appreciate the lesson that I was given through all of that.  In doing so, I want to pass on my experience as a inspiration for those who are indecisive about how to end a toxic relationship. Being OK with things running the course and moving on signifies control and sets you up for whats right in your life and your future!

Take control of your life.

LOVE LOTS,

Dee



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