Relationships : Are they ever perfect?

After being in a handful of relationships and experiencing different things each time, I have come to ask myself "............will I ever be completely satisfied or will I always have to deal with something?" When I say "something" I don't mean small things; I'm talking attitude, jealousy, laziness, selfishness, etc. When is it OK to compromise? As a women and yes I am talking to you ladies, WE ALREADY KNOW WHAT WE CAN AND CAN NOT TOLERATE. Still through love we are inclined to give it a chance. So this brings me back to the question. Just because we may have to deal with a certain "bad" personality trait, does it make your relationship less then perfect? I would love to hear from you ladies and guys too!

So here's what I think.... I don't think that a "defective" personality( who's to say its not you) trait would cause much of a problem, especially if the two of you really love each other. I do believe that as long as each party respects(big deal) each other truly, anything can be worked out. In an equally balanced relationship, you will find that the "small things" really are the "biggest" issues of the relationship . But if things are off balance, there will be a large amount of work to be done if the both of you really want to be together. So my true answer is : A perfect relationship is in the eye of the "beholder". You will know if its worth it. Remember unhappiness means that you are settling and that is a waste of everyone's time. Be real with yourself and if its not worth a fight, leave it alone. No one is perfect, in relationships we should compliment each other. So as couples' we should do our best to accentuate this. Sure its not easy but it should always be in the back of your mind that, this is your life partner(if this is true) and if your love is real between the two of you.......its work and you both have to do it!- FREE THERAPY

Til Next Time...

~DEE~

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