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 Ending a relationship that is not good for you sounds easy but can be difficult. There is one real thing that you have to do to finally walk away. Make up your mind PERIOD! Seriously sit down and in your mind ask your self these questions: Can I be my best self with this person? Is this relationship beneficial to them more than me? Are you happy to see yourself with this person in the future with out a doubt? When you come to terms with those things and just basically make a conscious decision to do what you need to do for you, everything else falls into place. A lot of people sabotage themselves by staying years in a bad relationship because they don't want to look like "the bad guy" or they don't want to be "uncomfortable". Maybe other aspects of the relationship work for them but they generally are miserable. Perhaps the spouse's family is really nice but the days at home are dreadful.  When you drag this process on it results in a...

My Mission Statement : The True Maturity Today is June 14, 2014! I am aware and alive !! It is the most wonderful thing that I have had happen to me, in my entire life! I know how much this existence is worth and I refuse to take any part of it for granted!                                                 CALL ME CRAZY but let it give me freedom...... In my world there is magic and it brings everything to life. All things that I see, hear, touch and feel in my space are of importance and have significance to my position at any given moment. If I continue to move until I reach my last,                                                 I am sure to live my life in fulfillment! Love lots, Dee

I have been with the same man for 5yrs and its ending ? Well honestly I am not surprised especially since I was not very happy. I just thought that I should wait it out and see if anything would "change", Big mistake!! The only thing that I could get from my spirit after praying about it was that I prolonged a season which should have ended a while ago. Sometimes people, places or even things are only meant to be apart of us for a short while for whatever reason. It's  Divine Order  or just the way that God has planned it to be. But when you go screwing around with it, its likely to bite you right in the arse!! I am picking up the pieces as we speak, and its a task!! So please take my advise.. If something deep down in your gut is telling you to move on from it, DO IT!!! Don't   waste ANY time cause it could cost ya!! Love Lots, Dee

Finding LOVE is not easy when you have a hopeless mindset which was brought on by being hurt and mistreated in previous relationships. The most important thing to do is give your self time to heal!!! This is the most important part. Allowing time to process and digest the fact that the previous relationship is really over makes more room for new feelings and new interest!  Its like moving into a new place that has all of the old families belongings still on the premises.  Clean house and you'd be more apt to find a serious love interest. People who have been burned are easy to spot, so its almost guaranteed that any person that you may be schmoozing up to can tell that your damaged goods before you can even get close enough to say "Boo". Get clear on exactly what it is that you are looking for. Some people don't even know what they want but wonder what they can't find fulfillm...

Sometimes we think our children need to be coddled, nursed, or even protected when they don't . As parents we must understand that parenting is not all about keeping our children happy. So when we don't face issues head on that we have with our children, those same issues can grow into life challenges for them. Tough love...not abuse...lol, is very important and is a needed discipline that helps to correct behavior issues and allow our children to become independent people. So sugar coating and making excuses for why our children do things that they should not, facilitates the problem and helps it to persist longer. We don't have to do everything for our children!!! Let them develop their own strengths and weaknesses, not ones that we create by doing everything for them. Stop that cycle now, before its too late! And you have reached the level of stress that brings you to your knees.. !! Seriously, love lots p...

People often complain about what they don't have and what is not enough, not realizing that the simplest things can be compromised and cripple us for life..... What have you taken advantage of today, what could have been worse but turned out "Well Enough" ! Be thankful. ...recognize Gods Grace upon Your life Today!!!  Love Lots, Dee

First, let me start by saying that I am not a licensed therapist or a doctor with a mental medical degree. I am an expert on my life and I would like to share with you all how I was able to  get an understanding of self fulfillment and a life of happiness! 1.   Realize that you can control your own happiness! If all that existed in the worl d as we know it should perish, what would save you, what would keep you thriving?! 2.  Take advice as friendly suggestions, not an outline on how to live your life! When we have close friends and family we look to them for advice about many things. But there is nothing worse then screwing up all the time, because we cannot make our OWN decisions! 3.  Choose your battles wisely! I have never seen a person who picked and picked and kicked and screamed, get anything but a pacifier and diaper change!  A person who realizes their peac...

People always confuse the more is more scenario, thinking that less could not possibly satisfy them, when they actually have everything that they need. Have you ever heard that person who complains about everything, even down to the very air that they must "unfortunately" breathe. That is just a sign of a person who will "never" be satisfied which is besides the point and another topic :).  Today I came out to my porch, looked up into the sky and thought of all the wonderful things that I have to be grateful for. Of course I have issues, everyone does!! Its factual that all bad or even good things can be worse. That being said.....Its important that we VALUE the present and every ounce of GOOD that exists in our lives or we could find ourselves forever trapped by the burdens of our own greediness. Love lots Dee  ...Next time.

By the time most of us are considered "Grown Up" we are molded into the person that we will be as an "adult". The things that we have learned can then be passed on to our children and our children's children. One of those things that I have learned about is the power of trust!  That its the one word can break the toughest of bonds and shatter the best of relationships. Blood cannot change the rules either, once you lose the trust of a loved one you can either choose to let go or work tremendously hard to get it back. One thing that confuses me though is the fact that  guilt  can mimic a lack of trust. A persons guilt can rot their heart; poisoning their minds into believing that whatever they have done to others will eventually happen to them. So a long history of paranoia, worrying, skepticism and never ending doubt is their life sentence. Unfortunately, this hurts the one who really loves them and eventua...

As much as we see dead beat dads and run away fathers it is sometimes hard to see and remember that their are Great fathers and figures out there. Sometimes I get so bogged down by the negativity that is promoted almost w/o consciousness. I know that there are some bad dads out there but lets do our best to build up instead always tearing down! XOXOXOX Next time!!!

After being in a handful of relationships and experiencing different things each time, I have come to ask myself "............ will I ever be completely satisfied or will I always have to deal with something ?" When I say "something" I don't mean small things; I'm talking attitude, jealousy, laziness, selfishness, etc . When is it OK to compromise? As a women and yes I am talking to you ladies, WE ALREADY KNOW WHAT WE CAN AND CAN NOT TOLERATE. Still through love we are inclined to give it a chance. So this brings me back to the question. Just because we may have to deal with a certain "bad" personality trait, does it make your relationship less then perfect? I would love to hear from you ladies and guys too! So here's what I think.... I don't think that a "defective" personality( who's to say its not you) trait would cause much of a problem, especially if the two of you really love each other. I do believe that as lon...