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The Truth about Finding Love

Finding LOVE is not easy when you have a hopeless mindset which was brought on by being hurt and mistreated in previous relationships. The most important thing to do is give your self time to heal!!! This is the most important part. Allowing time to process and digest the fact that the previous relationship is really over makes more room for new feelings and new interest!  Its like moving into a new place that has all of the old families belongings still on the premises.  Clean house and you'd be more apt to find a serious love interest. People who have been burned are easy to spot, so its almost guaranteed that any person that you may be schmoozing up to can tell that your damaged goods before you can even get close enough to say "Boo". Get clear on exactly what it is that you are looking for. Some people don't even know what they want but wonder what they can't find fulfillm...

"Waste Not Want Not"

People always confuse the more is more scenario, thinking that less could not possibly satisfy them, when they actually have everything that they need. Have you ever heard that person who complains about everything, even down to the very air that they must "unfortunately" breathe. That is just a sign of a person who will "never" be satisfied which is besides the point and another topic :).  Today I came out to my porch, looked up into the sky and thought of all the wonderful things that I have to be grateful for. Of course I have issues, everyone does!! Its factual that all bad or even good things can be worse. That being said.....Its important that we VALUE the present and every ounce of GOOD that exists in our lives or we could find ourselves forever trapped by the burdens of our own greediness. Love lots Dee  ...Next time.

Your Purpose

Remember when we were children or even teenagers, we had no clue what "we" were all about !!(0_0) I mean, speaking for my self, I had so many phases its ridiculous.--lol I was a tomboy, a girly girl, a sophisticated lil lady, then finally who I am today; plain, easy going , down to earth "Dee". Silly as it sounds it took all that to help me find who I am, along with the experience of life itself, trail with tribulations and the joys of course. The point that I am trying to make is that once you find your purpose and you figure out who you are, its very important to expand on that for the rest of your life in order to get the most out of it! Letting others decide on who you are can lead to unhappiness , bitterness, failure, low self-esteem and even depression. Its ridiculous to let any other person who has their own life depict or direct...

The Defeat Of Trust

By the time most of us are considered "Grown Up" we are molded into the person that we will be as an "adult". The things that we have learned can then be passed on to our children and our children's children. One of those things that I have learned about is the power of trust!  That its the one word can break the toughest of bonds and shatter the best of relationships. Blood cannot change the rules either, once you lose the trust of a loved one you can either choose to let go or work tremendously hard to get it back. One thing that confuses me though is the fact that  guilt  can mimic a lack of trust. A persons guilt can rot their heart; poisoning their minds into believing that whatever they have done to others will eventually happen to them. So a long history of paranoia, worrying, skepticism and never ending doubt is their life sentence. Unfortunately, this hurts the one who really loves them and eventua...

Relationships : Are they ever perfect?

After being in a handful of relationships and experiencing different things each time, I have come to ask myself "............ will I ever be completely satisfied or will I always have to deal with something ?" When I say "something" I don't mean small things; I'm talking attitude, jealousy, laziness, selfishness, etc . When is it OK to compromise? As a women and yes I am talking to you ladies, WE ALREADY KNOW WHAT WE CAN AND CAN NOT TOLERATE. Still through love we are inclined to give it a chance. So this brings me back to the question. Just because we may have to deal with a certain "bad" personality trait, does it make your relationship less then perfect? I would love to hear from you ladies and guys too! So here's what I think.... I don't think that a "defective" personality( who's to say its not you) trait would cause much of a problem, especially if the two of you really love each other. I do believe that as lon...