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Rebirth - My coming out story.


I know that the title sounds very cliche but trust me when I say that once I truly understood my own sexuality it was like I was reborn again.


I came out to the entire world July 2016, after 36 years of living in denial . It was the best day of my life! I will never forget the day I felt the change from the inside of me. At that moment I was free! Only when a person has experienced such a transition can it be understood with out it sounding like a bunch of Bullshit. Especially since I have three kids and have previously been with men. How can I call my self a lesbian without it looking like I am confused? I think its important to state the obvious because people now-a-day's people are very superficial and judgmental. I find it genuine to state what the average person would immediately assume.

But truly and from my heart, I would encourage any human being not to trot around their entire life in a shell that has the exterior to please society while internally suffocating with self doubt. When I say that I mean and implore on the fact that people don't take the time to find themselves anymore. With all of the media's influence, there is really no room for creation and innovation. Everything is revamped, copied or recreated. Sadly enough this happens with people so much so that they become depressed and sometimes are left unable to cope and ultimately giving up on who they truly are.

I feel like the confidence of embracing your self and taking the time to discover the person that stands in the mirror in front of you is the most power weapon never created by man!

It is power! It is pure power that is handed over to strangers, famous people(who have no idea who you are) or the kid who picks on you in third grade. The worst part is that we find out later on in life after going through therapy and taking unnecessary medications after we've again  allowed the world to make matters worse. I cannot say how this can be fixed or am I offering tips on how to get past it. I am merely stating my experience and how with releasing my concern of what the world thought of me freed me from my own internal prison.

Also, I challenge you to do this: Take the job,change your hair, move out of the state that you were born in, hell move out of the country, be gay, run 3 miles, read a book if you never have (out loud in front of people), fall, trip and get boo boos. Fear is a murder and society is it's keeper! I know that I sound like some crazy lady and I don't expect you to trust what I am saying but I dare you!

I dare you to be outside of the frame. That's when you will you see what you are made of and not what was painted.

Love lots,
DEE

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